Protect your Energy with Intention setting and compassionate noticing

Our healing energy thrives in spaces of peace, compassion, joy, awe and love. These and other healing emotions bring us to a place of conscious awareness, a type of knowing that helps us connect to others in a place of safety and happiness. It is, of course a different feeling than when we experience distrust, anger, sadness and betrayal. We tend to take a sharp turn from how we notice our world when feeling hurt and pain in our heart, this often has us responding to our world as though love is not feeling present in our day to day lives. Pain is felt and responded to differently, we feel it energetically as heat, movement, and discomfort which makes it difficult to tune into our intuition and knowing. When love and compassion is felt and is protected from judgement or the requirement to perform or earn, our mind and soul awareness drops peacefully into the body.

We may have grown up in a family that was hurting, where our painful emotions as a child and a need for care sat in a place of loneliness and separation from love and connection. The body remembers this loneliness and looks to protect us from further hurt as we grow and move through our life. So much of the time, this body experience of loneliness or not feeling seen or loved influences how we problem solve and how we look for solutions. We may identify a problem or setback to ourself, or friends from a lens of intense physical signals such as a fast heart beat, or other energy that is showing up as discomfort in the body. This discomfort sends us in a direction of protection and possibly old coping strategies that no longer serve us. It’s helpful to become a compassionate observer who looks from the lens of a peaceful nervous system, this will help light the way to a new path and over time feel the energy of hope and love. Trauma and pain often has us solving the wrong problem, one which leads us in a circle of responding which may include perfections, over performing or ignoring our gut feeling that may be sending us red flags.

These patterns of noticing and responding from a place of hurt and protective energy often look for quick responses and outcome. We may have been told as a child that it is not brave to cry, or shamed when we had emotions that were different from our parent. According to Dr. Richard Schwartz who developed the Internal Family Systems Model, the part of us that was not seen or hurt as a child can turn into an exile. This space of exile is the part of us that feels unsafe and is separated from our deeper intuition and problem solving. It’s helpful to protect your energy and experience emotions with compassionate words, intention and noticing, that can be used through your day to bring a new belief system that will over time bring you to your compassionate and intuitive self. It’s helpful to set a daily intention of what you want, what you don’t want and what energy you want to experience throughout the day. This one exercise done in the morning and then at night can help reset the understanding of who you are, what you want and bring you to a whole new beautiful space that you never imagined.