Using the power of reframing to find better solutions. Here are three reframing tools to help you create the life you want.

Often we frame problems from our first response, which may be accompanied by anxiety and overwhelm. If a problem has shadows from past grief, loss or trauma, we may become flooded emotionally. This flooded space makes it difficult to tune into what our body is telling us about the present moment. This flooded space often has us drop into a persona such as the perfectionist, the fawn or from a task focused lens. This overwhelmed space separates us from our awareness of the present moment, we then problem solve from a less effective cortisol or anxiety informed nervous system. It’s from this anxious space that we move into a fight or flight nervous system, the solutions we find here are often informed by faulty beliefs or past wounds.

Here are three tools that help reframe problems from a more unified self, so that you can create better solutions to big and small problems.

#1: It’s helpful to push the time line out and travel with our curiosity for a few days or few weeks, to see what you notice over time about the problem. Perhaps the problem is a feeling of uncertainty about what business steps to take next. In this example, this person wants a secure business so they can feel financially secure. This is a great moment to right down what they want and why, using words and art to tell the story of what life looks like once they become financially secure. Then breathe in and meditate and ask yourself what is one elevated step to get to this place. This helps frame a problem from a more unified and higher self by moving out of the urgency and task focused persona. It also allows the body to connect with safety while looking for solutions. The symbols, colors and words that you write down from a calm emotional place help create a new belief and way of responding to a problem.

#2: Are you solving the right problem? If we are overwhelmed, the problem we are solving may not be clear. For example, if a person is wanting to find a new friend or a partner, the urgency and want for connection may make it difficult to see what step to take next. We may become triggered and give away our power by moving into people pleaser persona or pursue someone who is unavailable or may not be the right connection for your current healing journey. The faulty belief of unworthiness may direct a person to betray themselves in an effort to connect to others. This faulty belief is the problem to solve first, so that overtime the person can look for connection from a belief of self love .

#3: Pattern Interrupt. Solving problems from a space of fight or flight, has us responding to our present moment in fear and may align our beliefs to an emotional space of scarcity. A pattern interrupt is a behavior that changes the way we approach a problem and starts with reframing our beliefs about a problem. For example, a person may feel they are not enough and approach new relationships with fear and reactivity. A pattern interrupt helps us notice when we feel triggered and take time to bring ourselves back to peace before problem solving. Going for a walk or putting a puzzle together are a couple of ways to get distance from a reactive and fearful response to a trigger. Over time this changes the brains interpretation and helps us move to a more love based belief.

These reframing tools help develop self trust as a problem solver and connect us with the elevated steps to find a positive solution for our future self. Understanding what you want and why we believe certain things makes it easier to embed our intentions into a calm and focused mind and body. These tools can help frame our problems and solutions from a place of self love as opposed to personas that are held in hurtful root beliefs or old programming. Pattern interrupt helps us shake free from old beliefs so that we can be released from fawn, or the caretaker, allowing for us to reframe problems from the lens of self trust and self love..